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We will counsel you on your secret issues.
This is Hello, the National Competition on Issues.
Today,
- we have a lady here. - She's here at last.
She's the lady of ladies.
It's Kim Young-ok.
- Welcome. - Welcome.
Thank you.
- We also have Baro and Jin-young of B1A4. - Welcome.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Welcome)
I hear that Young-ok sleeps past midnight...
on Mondays because of Hello.
I sleep past midnight on other days too...
but by chance, I was watching this...
- and I really enjoyed it. - Really?
Yes. So I watched it often.
It shows people's daily lives as it is...
and I'm surprised by many of the stories here.
That's what drew me into this show...
and I thought about how it would be if I were to come here...
- and give advice to such people. - Advice, I see.
- So I went to "Cultwo Show" - She came to our radio show...
- and said she wanted to come here. - I spoke out of line.
I'll just have some fun here today.
(Please be nice.)
(We look forward to her direct words.)
Young-ok was on a rap show.
- A hip-hop show, right? - Yes.
She was on such a show.
- She really... - You had such style.
- Right? - You were amazing.
- As you're here, please rap for us. - Show us.
(Young-ok demonstrates hip-hop spirit.)
(I'm crazy about rap and I go crazy in my sleep, too)
(And I keep waking up in the night)
(I really love rap)
(I like it)
(It's the best)
(I'm the best there is.)
I learned that rap music is something...
- that boils inside and you express it with rap. - Yes.
I watched rappers like BewhY and C Jamm...
- perform... - BewhY and C Jamm?
- for the rap competition... - BewhY?
and when I saw BewhY win the show,
- I rolled around in glee. - You did?
- But... - The second season of the rap show I was on is going to air...
Are you going to keep talking?
(Is this a rap, too?)
I'm not going to be on that season so I can talk about it.
Kin-young, you has a cringe worthy line in your drama,
"Love in the Moonlight." Your acting was so good.
Yes. We really enjoyed the drama.
(He played Kim Yoon-sung in "Love in the Moonlight.")
(Isn't it cheating...)
(for a eunuch to be so fair?)
- You had a line, "Why are you so pretty?" - Yes.
- Say that line to Yeong-ja. - Oh, my.
(I wish my heart will stop fluttering.)
We have Young-ok here, too.
Who cares if I'm here?
- Pretty Yeong-ja should take this. - Thank you.
I love how understanding you are.
I love it.
(Their friendship grows with mutual understanding.)
- Okay. - I'm Kim Yoo-jung.
(What did you say?)
Can I put my arm around you?
You may.
He's really hugging me.
I'll begin.
(She's five seconds away from a heart attack.)
Yeong-ja.
Why are your lips quivering when he hasn't even started?
He didn't do a thing but you leaned in.
I was just getting into character.
Isn't it cheating...
(Isn't it cheating...)
- for Yeong-ja to be so fair? - Goodness.
(for Yeong-ja to be so fair?)
You're driving me crazy.
(He drives her crazy with his loveliness.)
Oh, my goodness.
(She's on cloud nine.)
- You released a new song. - Yes.
Please show us.
(Let's hear it right away.)
Let's go.
It's their new song.
("A Lie" by B1A4)
(Poetic melody and sentimental vocals)
(He's a good actor.)
It's on a new level.
(They are the polite idols, B1A4.)
(You can't help but fall for them.)
(The song is so nice, it seems untrue.)
This is from a middle school student...
who's going through the turmoils of life.
Hello.
- There he goes again. - I'm a girl in ninth grade who's upset with life.
In my family, we have a very loving father and daughter.
They are my dad and younger sister.
"Goodness. How pretty!"
"Daddy loves you!"
"I love you!"
"I love you too, Daddy."
- "I love you! Kisses!" - It's like a cartoon.
They are all over each other every day...
but the problem is this. When I tell Dad I love him too, he says,
"That's disgusting. Go away!"
He pushes me away like that.
To my sister, he's so sweet...
but to me, he's evil.
"Why is your room in such a state?"
"My sister made that mess."
"How dare you use her as an excuse!"
"A pretty girl like her couldn't have done this."
He only tells me off whatever the circumstances are.
"Dad, I made these at school today."
"Do you want to try some?"
"Eat them yourself."
But he's different to my sister.
"Daddy, do you want these snacks?"
"Oh, my goodness. Thank you, Sweetheart."
I'm really the ugly ducking, right?
Could it be that I'm not really his own daughter?
Please help me so that my dad loves me, too.
If this story...
If this is true, it's understandable she has her doubts.
That's true.
- This seems serious to me. - It is.
I went through something similar too so I understand.
When you were a child?
Even after I turned 50,
that scar affected my marriage...
- It scars you for life. - It drives you crazy your whole life.
I almost suffocated to death in a sauna once.
This lady, she's over 60 but we're all friends,
and she told us about how she was discriminated...
and her scars stayed with her for over 60 years.
It came up somehow and she had to get this off her chest...
so I stayed in the steam sauna for 12 minutes.
I said, "Sorry, I have to get out of here."
- I had to leave. - So this scars you for life.
Yes. She stayed for 30 minutes after that...
- She's like me. - in the steam sauna
It may be nothing for her dad,
- he may just be joking... - It's a long lasting wound.
- but for his daughter, it hurts for life. - Of course.
- What do you think, Baro? - What kind of a dad jokes like that?
- Of course. - You can't love your children...
- Baro was going to speak. - like that. Never.
Let's hear what Baro has to say right away.
If your child is wrong, you should scold them and praise them if they do good.
- But I don't think you should discriminate your own children. - Right.
Jin-young. Think about it. Say you all worked hard and practiced really hard...
but Baro gets 200 dollars and you get 100.
- I see. - See?
That will really...
drive you mad, don't you think so?
Of course. You should never discriminate.
Today's first guest, she's in middle school.
It's a very sensitive age, ninth grade.
Let's welcome her warmly.
- Why don't you two greet her? - Sure.
Let's bring out our guest.
(Which guest is worried about her dad's discrimination?)
(Park Mi-jin)
Nice to meet you.
(Welcome)
Does your dad really favor your sister?
Yes. It's so bad...
that when I thought about coming here, I thought Dad will be embarrassed...
so I was in a dilemma.
However, he was so confident.
- He said, "I do like your sister more." - He was that confident?
- Really? - That made me angrier so here I am.
He really said that?
- He said he liked her more? - He's so sure of himself.
- When he calls me, there's no love in it. - He just calls you by your full name?
Yes. But when he calls my sister,
he says, "My pretty little piggy."
- "Pretty little piggy?" - "My pretty little piggy."
Isn't that more offensive?
- "My pretty little piggy." - Isn't it?
They have their own greeting.
They go, "I love you! Kisses and hearts!"
- Your sister says that? - Yes.
- They kiss and hug and so on. - What does your dad say in return?
He does the same.
"I love you. Hearts and kisses!" Like that?
- Yes. I tried that too. - Okay.
- I wanted to see how he'd react. - Right.
- He told me to go away and that I was disgusting. - "Go away! That's disgusting!"
He pushed me away.
- That's harsh. - You must've been upset.
Have you ever asked him why...
he only likes your sister?
I asked him crying...
and he said it's perfectly normal because she's still young.
- He always says it's because she's young. - This...
- What's the age gap? - She's eight years younger than me.
- That's a big age gap. - There is a significant age gap...
- so couldn't you understand him being more affectionate to her? - You should.
- No? - I can't understand...
because when I was as young as her,
my parents both worked...
so my grandma raised me since my first birthday.
She raised me until I turned eight years old.
The year I moved back to my parents' home, my sister was born.
That's when Dad started favoring her and giving me the cold shoulder.
I was upset as it was, because I lived away from my parents.
When you needed your parents' care the most, you lived with your grandparents.
Your parents should have given you more love, then. Why did they do that?
They should have made up for lost time, right?
I feel like an ugly duckling...
- and it feels like I'm not a part of this family. - Oh, dear.
It's good you came here.
This needs to be sorted out here...
- or this will eat away at you for decades. - That's true.
- It's true. - It'll hurt her so deeply...
and affect her for the rest of her life.
We need to punish your parents today.
- Punish them? - It seems your Dad doesn't know he's hurting you.
We'll listen to all you have to say and help you.
- Yes. - We'll talk to him and make him see what he's doing to you.
- Let's talk to your dad. - Dad.
Hello.
Do you really favor your younger daughter to this extent?
When I see my youngest,
I do feel more affection towards her. That's the truth.
That's the truth.
(His words stab her painfully once again.)
Why?
As for my youngest,
I had her living with me the whole time...
so I had more time to be affectionate towards her.
As for Mi-jin,
she grew up at her grandmother's since she was very young...
I think I was more awkward expressing my love to her.
Shouldn't you be nicer to her since she grew up with her grandmother?
It's hard to act according to my feelings.
- If... - My feelings...
How can you push her away?
- Right. - How can you push her away when she wants a hug from you?
It's kind of gross when my older daughter expresses her love to me.
- Why? - My goodness.
- How can a beautiful girl like her be gross? - Why is it gross?
- He thinks she's too old for that. - I think it's wrong to express it as "gross."
It may be right to say that it's awkward.
If you say she's gross,
- her feelings may get hurt. - She may get hurt.
Usually, a father would ask his daughter at this age to hang out with him.
- She'd be the one to say it's gross. - Right.
- Right. - That's how it usually goes.
- That's how it usually goes. - Setting aside the expression,
why do you blame the older sister for what the younger sister did?
For educative purposes, if I scold the older one,
the younger one would be less likely to do wrong.
I think that's why I do that.
Did you ever think that your younger daughter...
would be more undisciplined if you do that?
- If you do that? - There's no way that...
the younger one would talk back...
to her older sister for something she herself did wrong.
- Why is there no way? - Why do you think so?
Your older daughter said so. You should believe her.
I really want to install surveillance cameras in every room...
and show him proof.
I feel that it's really unjust. My father doesn't believe whatever I say.
He doesn't believe you at all?
Is she the younger sister?
- She's cute. - How old are you, little sister?
- I'm 8 years old. - 8 years old.
What's your name?
- I'm Park Ye-jin. - Hello.
- Ye-jin. - Hello.
- Ye-jin. - However...
What really surprises me is...
that she first smiled brightly.
After listening to her sister and everyone else,
- her expression... - Her face became dark.
She's realizing that she's on the bad side.
She understands everything.
- She understands everything. - Right.
- Right. - What does your father say when you fight with your sister?
He says that my older sister did wrong.
- No matter what? - Yes.
Do you think your older sister did wrong?
- No. I don't think she did. - She says no.
Do you think you did wrong?
- Yes. - Why did you stay still, then?
Why didn't you tell your father that you did wrong?
- Don't scold my sister. - I did.
- You did? - She says she did.
I did, my father kept scolding my sister.
Your father seems unemotional, but he's looking at you lovingly.
(He looks at her with a loving father's eyes.)
- Your sister... - Your sister says that she told your father that she did wrong.
However, if my father isn't there,
then she says, "Dad's on my side anyway. You can tattle tale if you want."
- Really? - She's angry.
She keeps irritating me.
Perhaps she's actually really good at talking.
When she's alone with her sister,
- Right. - she'll be like, "Go ahead. Tell Dad."
Tell Dad.
- Tell Dad. - She'll be like, "So what?"
- She'll be like this. - If her father comes home,
she'll be like, "Dad, I did wrong. Don't blame sister." Does she do this?
- Yes. - Does she go as far as that?
- No way. - She really does that.
How can an eight-year-old do that?
(The older one is frustrated. The younger one looks innocent.)
Are you different when you're with your sister?
I think I act differently.
She says she acts differently.
- She acknowledges it. - She's really honest.
You don't put on a facade.
(You're better than grown ups.)
- Are you her mother? Please give her the microphone. - Hello.
Hello.
- Did you know that your older daughter had this concern? - Yes.
Middle schoolers these don't express their love to their fathers.
- Right. - However, my husband can't stand that.
I tell my husband that there's no daughter like her.
My husband then says, "She's gross. Be quiet. Go away."
If I see that, I get angry.
- However, my husband doesn't know. - Right.
What's even worse is that when we go somewhere...
- Please spill it all out. - When we go somewhere...
It's hard to be a mother.
When we go somewhere, my husband acts as if he's a couple with my younger one.
He takes a sweet picture with her.
- Why is that so? - However, if my older one asks to take a picture with him,
he then says that it's gross.
My older one would have to desperately beg him...
for him to allow a picture together.
What happened?
- This is the younger one... - The younger one.
- It's Ye-jin. - Pictures with the younger one.
(Sweet pictures with the younger one)
(However, with the older one...)
(He is expressionless.)
- He's a passersby. - Look at his expression.
- I mean... - He's a passersby.
- Look at that... - He hugged her, but look at his expression.
- Why does he look so stiff? - Right.
I was able to take that picture with him by begging him since morning.
You kept begging him since morning?
You were able to take it when it was night.
- I was barely able to take one. - Your family went out.
- Yes. - My older one would express her love her father again...
- after ten minutes. - That's so sad.
If she does that, my husband...
doesn't accept it.
Did you ever talk to him about it?
If I try talking to him about it, he would say that my youngest one is cute.
This is seriously...
- extreme. - Can't you even smile at your older daughter?
Right.
I can't.
He says he can't. My goodness.
When I'm with my youngest one, I can smile naturally.
However, if my older daughter comes...
and tries to take a picture with me,
- it's awkward. - It's not that he dislikes her. He's not...
- used to it. - It's awkward for him.
It's awkward for him.
Was there any instance where you thought that your husband went too far?
When my oldest one asks him to go to the supermarket with him,
then he says, "If you come, I won't go."
He says, "Just stay home. It's annoying."
- Why does he do that? - Then...
It was in winter when my younger sister wanted to go to the supermarket.
Dad would help my sister to put on earmuffs, a mask, and scarf.
He would help her out with everything.
When I put on my jacket,
he was already gone.
- He was already out. - You were getting ready to go out,
and put on a jacket. - I said, "Dad, I want to go, too."
While closing the door, Dad said,
"You should just stay home," and went out with my younger sister.
(That's too much.)
Why would you tell her to go back in when she was following you?
Why are you unnecessarily unkind?
- I mean... - That's unnecessary.
When I told my daughter that I didn't want to go with her,
then she would tell her mother about that.
I can hear her saying that from downstairs.
It's amusing to hear that.
- It's amusing to tease her. - There's that aspect as well.
I think I keep doing that unconsciously.
Do you do that because it's funny. You don't even consider her feelings?
- I don't. - I think...
When you spend time with someone,
you start having a relationship with that person, no matter what kind it is.
Whether it's a relationship of dependence or of master and servant...
Your daughter craves your love.
I think you think it's alright to treat her that way.
Right. If I get angry or irritated with her,
she then comes to me after 10 or 15 minutes.
She asks, "Dad, what are you doing?"
She does that, so I obviously think...
Right. It's funny how you think this is something obvious.
- You can't enjoy this. She's having a hard time. - Are you playing with her heart?
This is...
People have this strange mindset.
Why do you enjoy that when your daughter is having a hard time?
If I don't express my love to him, I'm afraid I'll never be able to talk to him.
- Right. She's worried. - Because of that...
- She's more mature. - If I approach him,
- I hope he'll talk to me more. - Right.
Let me ask you one thing, sir.
What will you do if your daughter goes to the wrong path?
What if she cuts ties with you?
What if she decides that you hate her?
What are you going to do if that happens?
I didn't think about that.
That's why you're acting like this.
- Right. - Did you ever think of avoiding your father?
Did you ever think of revolting against him?
- I didn't. - You didn't, yet?
Didn't you ever think of breaking your Dad's car?
- I didn't. - She doesn't think of that.
It may seem as though this family's story is outrageous.
- However, there are many families like this. - Right.
However, the mother is placed in the most difficult situation at times like this.
- Right. - No matter what she says,
- he won't listen. - I actually...
- scold the older one and younger one equally. - Right.
- However, my husband... - He takes sides?
He even says unkind words.
When my older one was in Grade four,
- When she was 11 years old... - she was chosen...
as the representative of paper-folding for her school
She was chosen for that, but my husband...
said, "What's so amazing about that?"
- He's enjoying it. - She was chosen as the representative.
- He's really enjoying it. - When she was in Grade five,
she was a candidate for the vice president of her school.
- She's popular. - My husband said, "You're nothing."
- He's enjoying it. - However, she was voted as the vice president.
- She's amazing. - He said, "Anyone can do that."
- He said, "Anyone can do that?" - Yes.
- Sir? - Yes?
Were you ever the vice president for your school?
- He can't respond. - You didn't even do it.
She did something you couldn't do.
She takes good care of herself. There's nothing special...
for me to say to her.
It's just that when I express myself,
it comes out a bit roughly.
I don't think she understands me yet.
- You're not rough with your younger one. - You don't love her.
What are your feelings for her?
I... love my oldest one as well.
(Here you go.)
Why do you behave that way to her?
It's fortunate...
- that you were able to come here. - Right.
She's a very good kid.
There's a lot of families like this in South Korea.
Most of the kids in those families go to the wrong path.
She was able to come out here because...
she was loved by her grandparents.
It's a relief compared to...
- your behavior. - She'd keep building walls.
This family would become a very happy one if you change.
- How does he treat you? - He's enjoying it.
Me? He sometimes talks to me roughly.
I would then argue with him.
Do you see your parents arguing with each other often?
Yes. However, most of the time, they fight...
- after my Mom asks him why he only scolds me. - They argue about that.
They argue about that.
- I feel like it's because of me. - She must feel so bad.
- This is... - I mean...
(She feels bad for that.)
- I think those beside them are relatives. - Who are you?
Hello. I'm Mi-jin's aunt.
- I'm her uncle. - They planned how to introduce themselves.
(It's like an idol group's greeting.)
- I'm Mi-jin's aunt. - I'm her uncle.
Aunts and uncles usually don't introduce themselves like that.
- That's funny. - What do Mi-jin's uncle and aunt think? You've heard their story.
My brother...
is the only son out of three children and he's the only son in three generations.
Our grandmother loved him dearly.
I think that's why he doesn't understand what Mi-jin is going through.
I understand to an extent...
but for me, when I see my brother...
treat Mi-jin harshly and say mean things to her,
I feel very bad for her.
Not long ago, he told Mi-jin...
- to do something but she must have misheard. - That can happen.
Yes. She could have not heard him but he said,
"Why can't you do what you were told to do? Are you brainless?"
He shouted harsh things to her...
- and went on and on about it. - In front of your relatives?
- Yes. Our mother was there... - Her self-esteem must be so low.
and when she saw...
him treat her like that,
she cried because she was so upset.
Even when we go out to eat,
- when Ye-jin says she wants a soft drink, - Yes.
he tells her to order whatever she wants.
When Mi-jin says the same thing,
- he cuts her off right away. - He doesn't let her order what she wants?
Yes. Even in such menial matters, he puts Ye-jin first.
Mi-jin used to be picky with her food. When she was in seventh grade,
she didn't eat what she was given...
- so he once threw her plate. - Goodness.
I said to him then, "Did you have to do that? She doesn't have to eat."
However, he didn't change a bit.
He does have a frustrating side.
How do you think this issue can be solved?
When Ye-jin does something wrong,
he should scold her properly.
I want Mi-jin and my brother-in-law...
to talk to each other more.
Sir. How do you feel after hearing what your family had to say?
- Go ahead. - I pointed out Mi-jin's mistakes...
and scolded her for her to improve as a person.
I think we should talk to each other more...
and improve the situation.
What's amazing about Mi-jin...
is that although her dad treated her so harshly,
- she kept expressing her love for her dad. - She's very kind-hearted.
- You want to improve your relationship with him desperately. - She's very sweet.
I worry that if I stop trying, he won't talk to me.
- You are so nice. - I want to talk to Dad.
I see. How have you tried to get closer to him?
It was my parents' wedding anniversary recently...
so I saved up my allowance and bought them matching T-shirts.
- She's an exceptional daughter. - You must be hiding your wings.
Wings...
(Tae-joon saw her leave it behind.)
- She took them off over there. - I thought so.
That evening, I asked Dad to come over as I had a gift for him in my room...
but he said he was tired and wasn't interested.
- She made such an effort. If you went to her, she would've been so happy. - Yes.
- She had a gift for you. - He was fine watching TV.
- He was watching TV! - I'm vexed to see him sitting like that, tilted to one side.
- Sir. - Sit up straight in front of your elders.
Yes. Sit up straight, please.
If Ye-jin had a gift for you, you'd have opened it right away.
- I suppose so. - See?
You shouldn't be like that!
- You say you find her awkward because she's grown so much. - Yes.
Do you think you'll feel the same way when Ye-jin gets older, too?
- I don't think so. - Right?
- That's wrong. - That's why something's very wrong here.
With Ye-jin,
I bathed her, washed her hair for her,
put lotion on her and everything.
With Mi-jin,
she was already so grown up when she came back to me...
so when she asks me to comb her hair, I think that's why...
I say it's disgusting and tell her to go away.
You'll drift even further apart, then.
- You should be trying harder. - She's trying so hard.
She's trying so hard but you keep pushing her away.
Did you have a very tough time living with your grandparents?
I did miss my parents.
My grandparents loved me a lot...
- but their love is different to a parent's love. - Of course, it's different.
How did you feel when she lived with your parents?
On our way back home after leaving her...
with my parents for the first time,
I was very upset and I cried, actually.
- That's only normal. - She doesn't know this...
- You have to trust him on this. - but I cried.
- All parents feel the same for their own. - It wasn't just a few times.
Every weekend, when we went to see her,
I found it so hard to leave her behind.
It would have been nice to have told her about that.
Have you ever heard about how he felt back then?
I knew of it because Mom told be about it...
- but that's not how he treats me now, I can't believe it. - I see.
- You can't believe it. - It doesn't feel real.
Mi-jin.
- Have you never felt that your dad loves you? - Good question.
- Even though it was blunt, he has praised me so I can't say never. - Excuse me.
When you lived with your grandparents, your parents came to see you.
Wasn't he very affectionate then because he missed you?
(He must've been affectionate then.)
- She was too young to remember. - I don't remember much of that.
- That's... - She doesn't remember much from back then...
- This is very... - about her parents.
important.
She's desperate for her dad's love...
and if that feeling is not reciprocated and she becomes an adult like that,
this could cause serious problems...
in her relationships with men.
- Yes. - If a guy treats her nicely in the slightest way, she could fall for it.
It could have serious repercussions.
- It can cause problems with her married life, too. - Right.
What do you want from your dad?
I don't want much. I just want him to treat me...
the same way as my sister so that I feel like I'm his daughter, too.
Let me ask you directly. Do you favor your younger daughter over Mi-jin?
Oh, dear.
- They're the same to me. - Gosh.
You do have some sense.
You said you loved them both equally...
so show off to everyone here about...
what a good daughter Mi-jin is.
Mi-jin...
Look. He's never done this before so he's stuck.
- He's feeling sorry. - He feels sorry, too.
- He must feel bad. - Of course.
- Sir, it's okay. - Tell us about Mi-jin.
- Tell her directly. - Call her name.
(Please say something encouraging for Mi-jin.)
When you were young,
you lived...
with your grandparents...
but...
you grew up into a good and healthy girl so thank you.
I always...
See. You can feel what he wants to say.
He just doesn't know how to express how sorry he is and how much he loves you.
His emotions are welling up inside.
I can't bring myself to say this easily but Mi-jin, I love you.
He loves you.
(My girl, I love you.)
He feels so bad for what he did.
It was a little awkward but did his words help you understand his feelings?
- I can feel it. - Yes?
Oh, dear. Is there anything you want to say to your dad?
Call him.
- You can say you missed him. - Dad.
I want you to love me...
just like you love Ye-jin...
and when I do something well,
I hope you can praise me for those.
When Ye-jin makes a mess in the room,
I hope you tell Ye-jin off for that and tell her to tidy up her own mess.
That's all I ask.
Also, I love you, Dad.
What a good girl.
- Shall we start with Jin-young first? - Yes.
- Is it an issue? - It's an issue.
Baro?
Mi-jin made me look back on myself...
because even though she's still young, she tries so hard...
- to be closer to her dad. - Yes.
I think I should...
call my parents and tell them I love them.
If her dad made a little more effort,
- I think this family will be very happy so I don't think it's an issue. - Okay.
- Young-ok. - Yes.
Well...
I think it's an issue because you have to change.
You have to completely change your ways.
As a father, you should really think this over.
If this goes on, you could ruin both your children...
and give your wife a tough time, too.
- Change for your family. - That's right.
If you think it's an issue for Mi-jin, press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- Okay. In 5, 4, 3, - In 5, 4, 3,
- 2, 1. Time's up. - 2, 1. Stop voting.
- Ye-jin. - Yes.
Are you feeling okay?
- She cried. - Are you sad?
- What made you so sad? - It's all right.
- It's understandable. - It's okay.
Ye-jin. From now on, if Mi-jin did something wrong, she'll be told off...
and if you do something wrong, you'll be told off. Is that okay?
- Yes. - What a big girl you are.
She's so cute.
- Ye-jin, tidy your room from now on, okay? - Okay.
- All right. - Be happy and get along with your sister, okay?
- She's cute, right? - Yes.
- All right. - Tell her you love her first.
- I love you, Ye-jin. - Tell her you love her, too.
Good girl.
All right.
Let's see how many votes this issue got.
- It was more serious than we thought. - The last digit is seven.
It's over 100.
It's over a hundred at least.
(Let's see.)
How many votes did it get? It's 147.
(This issue received 147 votes.)
We hope you are all happy together. Thank you.
I will introduce the next story with Tae-joon.
It's "Forgetfulness Doesn't Solve Everything."
Hello, I'm a housewife and I feel like I'm walking on ice every day.
My 26-year-old sister...
becomes a crazy mess every day and raises havoc all over the place.
This is all because of alcohol.
Goodness.
"Give me another drink. I want another drink."
"You wretched dogs!"
- "I want..." - Hey, don't curse for real. You just have to act.
- Tone it down a little. - "Hey."
"You men over there, join me for a drink."
- It's no big deal for her to go up to men our dad's age... - It must be a habit.
- To elders? - and act rude and offer them drinks.
What's more...
"How dare you drink like that? Quit drinking at once!"
"What? What did I ever do?"
- "I don't remember a thing." - She forgets.
So I'm going to reveal the raw truth today and fix my sister's bad habits.
After hearing my story, please talk some sense into my sister.
(Please tell her off.)
I'm not good with alcohol-related issues so I'm not sure how much help I'll be.
Young-ok, what do you think about this issue?
- Forgetting what you did when you were drunk is an illness. - Yes.
- It is. - Of course.
- Do you drink? - Pardon?
- When you were young. - Did you?
Why wouldn't I drink? Of course I do.
- When I meet friends... - And team dinners, right?
or have team dinners, I'll have a glass of soju.
Back then, soju was strong so it was nice...
but these days, it's so bland it tastes like water, so I don't drink it.
I'm going to give this girl a good telling off.
(She's in for an earful.)
(I'm so sorry.)
Let's meet the person who picks fights, curses...
and passes out on streets whenever she drinks.
- Let's meet her. - She's not the one getting drunk.
- Oh, right. - It's her sister.
It's the sister of the person concerned.
- Let's invite... - Let's meet the person concerned first.
- I see... - She's the sister.
Let's bring out the sister of the person concerned.
Please come out.
(Who is worried about a sister with terrible drunk habits?)
(Moon So-hee)
- How much does your sister drink? - Every day?
She started drinking on New Year's Day of the year she turned 20 years old.
- As soon as she turned legal... - Yes.
She began as soon as she turned 20.
- "Yes! I'm an adult now!" - Right.
It wasn't a special occasion but just because she turned legal...
Yes. At first, I didn't know it was so serious.
But seeing her drunken state recently...
- made me realize the gravity of the problem... - It's a problem.
and that's why I came here today.
What did you witness?
- When she drinks, - Yes.
she goes into a drunken rage.
- There's no stopping her, then. - Yes, that's right.
I got a call saying she was drunk so I ran out to get her...
and she was passed out on the street...
on some stranger's knee and we argued for an hour out on that street.
She didn't want to go.
Whose knee was she passed out on that night?
He was a guy she had a blind date with.
- That was their first date? - Yes. It was their first date.
- Goodness. - That's a good habit.
(How could she do that on a first date?)
What's worse was that she threw up all over that guy's clothes.
- She threw up, too. - She showed him a collection of drunken habits.
- She's your younger sister... - Yes.
- but is it okay to bring this up on national TV? - Did your dad play favorites?
- If not, I don't get it as this is your sister's personal life. - Right.
Let's meet the sister.
- Hello. - Someone looks very anxious.
- Hello. - Hello, nice to meet you.
- You don't look the type to drink so much. You're so cute... - Right.
- Right? - Did you really pass out on the streets on the knees of a guy...
you were on a first date with?
I'm told I did but I have no recollection of that.
Are you denying it?
People said I did so I thought maybe I did.
As we mentioned, did you not like the guy?
- Was the guy not that great? - I didn't like him.
- That's obvious. - So you wanted to drink for the beer goggles, then.
Did your dislike of him grow as you drank...
and make you decide to throw up on him?
(Did she give up on herself?)
- When you're drunk, - Yes.
do you often pass out on the streets?
I don't lie in the streets that often but after I turned 20,
I did lie in the streets from time to time.
Once, I was on the streets and a passer-by shouted,
- "This isn't your own living room!" - I see.
According to my friends,
I got right up and walked to the bus stop pretending to be sober.
- That's a few... - That's dangerous.
Hearing that...
made me think it was a funny anecdote.
I'm sure everyone passes out like that at least once in their lives.
Don't you ever think you're in danger and want to be careful?
If you look on the internet, passing out like that is commonplace...
so I didn't think it was very serious...
- but my sister... - It's serious.
- It is. - Isn't it frightening to have no recollection?
Of course. It's frightening. Haven't you seen the news?
Were you never in any direct danger?
- I fall over a lot when I'm drunk... - Yes.
- so every summer, I'm covered in bruises and scabs. - Scabs?
Once, I was drinking with a guy I was seeing...
and I kept saying I didn't want to go home so he was carrying me home...
- but he dropped me and I fell... - You fell over backwards.
Yes. I had a huge lump so I went to the emergency room.
- You went to the emergency room? - What on earth...
- I've seen people get drunk, fall over and shatter their teeth... - gosh.
- or roll down staircases. - Of course.
- That's true. - You could tear your skin if you're unlucky.
- It's even scary for men. - Of course it is.
- It frightens me. - You told us you fell backwards.
That could have led to a concussion.
It was my first time going to an emergency room in the middle of the night...
so I vowed to quit drinking and kept it up for a couple of weeks.
- After that, I began drinking again, though. - I see.
What do you normally drink?
I drink all sorts, soju, beer, makgeolli, soju and beer mixed together...
- She enjoys drinking. - Do you drink more on purpose when you're with men?
I'm fine with a bottle of soju but when I pass my limit of one and a half bottles,
I drink in a drunken state.
- That's drinking in a drunken stupor. - Right.
You think you really enjoy drinking, right?
I do enjoy it but my sister...
She's not one to talk, you see.
- She drinks like that, too? - Your sister?
- She likes alcohol, too. - I get that she enjoys a drink...
- but does she pass out on streets, too? - She doesn't...
but she eggs me on to drink sometimes.
When I call to ask her how many bottles of alcohol I should bring,
she says, "It's better to have plenty so bring four bottles."
- She eggs me on like that. - She's a problem, too.
- What is this? You encourage her drinking. - Don't say it's not true.
You shouldn't encourage and drink with her like that. This family is in trouble.
- This family? - Tell us. Do you encourage her drinking?
No, it's because when she drinks outside,
- I know what she gets up to. - Yes.
I said that because I'd rather she drink at home.
That's why I keep inviting her over.
I think drinking sensibly is good...
- but she has to drink until she passes out. - It's because she's still young.
When I don't let her drink, she swears and wreaks havoc...
to drink more.
She has to drink until she can't take any more.
- She'll drink behind your back then. - She can't control herself.
I got married recently and went on my honeymoon.
On a tight budget, I bought her a bag...
but she lost that together with her phone and wallet.
She doesn't even remember where she lost it.
I think everything together was worth about 1500 dollars.
- I think everything together was worth about 1500 dollars. - Gosh.
- You're going to get yourself in trouble. - I heard your first experience with...
drinking and learning good manners was important. Who taught you to drink?
- On New Year's Day? - Yes.
Be honest. I don't think that was when you first drank.
- That was really my first time. - Come on.
- It's true. - I'm sure there was a pre-run.
- There was no such thing. - I'm sure there was.
Who did you drink with on that day? Alone?
- I drank with a friend. - I see.
Is that friend here with you?
That friend called in for personal reasons.
- She must have a lot to say to call in. - Right.
We usually only have celebrities call in.
With difficulty, we managed to get that friend on the phone.
- Tae-joon, call her. - Hello?
- Hello? - You have a cute voice.
- Is this a blind date? - What are you doing?
- You're here to work. - Right.
- Hello. - Hello.
How long have you known this friend?
- We've been friends since 10th grade. - 10th grade?
How is she when she drinks?
She's a complete nuisance.
- Nuisance? - What does she do to make you say that?
She lies down in the middle of the street 9 times out of 10...
- Goodness. - and passes out.
- Bad habits have grown on her. - That's 90 percent.
- On my birthday, she passed out in the streets... - Yes.
- and I called her sister. - Yes.
I worry how she'll end up if I leave her on her own.
Let me ask you this. You say she lies down in the streets.
- Some people are completely out of it and just flop down on the ground... - Yes.
and some seem completely sober but suddenly just lie down.
Right? Which of the two types is she? Is she completely out of it?
- No. She seems fine then she just lies down. - I knew it.
- She seems sober. - That's what heavy drinkers do.
A long time ago, Song Eun-i was at a dinner...
and she excused herself to go home because she was drunk.
She then went to the car park...
and took her shoes of at the line and went in to the parking space and slept.
She seemed completely sober but actually, she was fully intoxicated.
Do you know what happened after that?
Eun-i was sleeping there and a man passing by wanted to help her...
so he held her up and when Eun-i saw him, she went,
"Burglar!" She thought someone had broken in to her house.
- She was that drunk? - She thought she'd been burgled.
Could you tell us about one drunken habit...
that you really can't stand?
I had a drink with her and her boyfriend...
- and she threw water over her boyfriend. - Gosh.
Out of nowhere?
(Why did she suddenly do that?)
Yes. She suddenly threw water in his face.
Did you really throw water in your boyfriend's face?
We had a friend he met for the first time but he...
would keep imitating how I speak and look like when drunk.
I was so angry that I poured water on him.
The next day, I acted like I didn't remember. He knows how I am when I'm drunk.
I said that I didn't remember anything.
- My boyfriend is beside... - He's beside you?
You must have a very hard time.
How did it feel when you got water poured on you?
I really wanted my girlfriend to limit her drinking habits...
- and to change them. I wanted her to know that it's shameful. - Right.
When I imitated her drinking habits,
she suddenly poured water on me.
- What happened after that? - What happened?
I was dumbstruck and angry.
Her girl friends were there.
I just said, "It feels cool."
- He's really nice. - It feels cool.
You should have stood firm if you want to fix her drinking habits.
- You lost if you said, "It feels cool." - It's mist.
- He's very considerate. - Did you experience any other shocking incident?
She loves drinking.
If there's some alcohol left,
she would shut the lid and put it in her bag.
- She brings it home. - Alcohol is valuable to her.
- She takes soju home? - Yes.
- She shuts the lid and takes it home. - She takes it even there's two sips left.
Is there any other incidents?
She curses.
When I asked her to go home, she slapped me.
My goodness. Is it okay if your parents see this show?
I'm worried what they'll say if they see this.
I don't think you're thinking of marriage, right?
It's not that. She's really nice when she's not drinking.
I did think of marriage.
- You did? - You did, but slowly...
Every time I see her extreme drinking habits, I worry.
How long have you two been dating?
We've been dating for 52 days.
What?
You thought of marriage when it's only been 52 days?
- That's possible. - It's only been 52 days.
How many days did she drink?
It's probably about 30 days.
- All these things happened in 52 days? - Yes.
Soju was poured on you and you got slapped.
- It's not two months yet. - You're contemplating marriage?
- It's not that... - What's this?
What's this? How is this possible when it's only been 52 days?
We saw various kinds of people through Hello.
We're saying this for your benefit.
Please don't think of marriage now.
Was there any great incident...
that made you request your story to Hello?
- I came out because of this incident. - There's something, right?
Yes. Six months ago, she started having a new drinking habit.
- A new drinking habit? - Yes.
- It's not injection? - It's not injection.
- A new drinking habit? - Yes.
- She started having a new drinking habit. - What is it?
- I thought it was injection. - If I say this,
I'm worried that she won't be able to marry.
I hope it's not what I'm thinking of.
We were drinking as usual.
She slept over at my home.
I'm worried.
When I woke up at midnight, my sister disappeared.
I was wondering where she went.
I looked for her. There's a balcony at the room beside mine.
I found her without her underwear and pants.
She was sleeping half naked.
I was so surprised and tried waking her up.
I found the pants and floor wet.
- I think she mistook the balcony for the bathroom. - My goodness.
- She still argues that she didn't. - That's possible.
Your brother-in-law must have been there.
Fortunately,
I woke up and found her first.
If my husband saw her, or if that happened someplace else,
- it would be so frightening. - It would.
You probably don't remember that incident.
When I woke up, it was cold...
- and wet. - You showed the extreme side of drunkards.
I never did that before.
I don't have that kind of drinking habit outside.
Drinking habits develop over time.
However, I saw her do that 4 to 5 times.
- Where did that happen? - Fortunately...
She urinated in the balcony and made an accident in the dressing room.
I would find her lying on the bathroom floor when I opened the door.
- These incidents happened. - This is dangerous.
- I'm worried that she'll do that outside. - She's always half-naked?
Yes. She's always half-naked.
If your drinking habits develop, you may do that on the streets.
- Right. - There are pictures like that...
- on the internet. - Public bathrooms.
- There are people who do that in the subway. - Right.
- This is a very serious problem. - How can you...
do that when you're 26 years old?
I'm telling you, you cannot drink a single glass of alcohol from now.
Do you still crave alcohol even after those incidents?
Don't you think you shouldn't drink anymore?
After the first balcony incident,
I thought that I had to quit drinking.
However, we had a family dinner that day.
I didn't want to drink, but my sister ordered a bottle of soju.
I would naturally have a drink.
You should drink moderately.
I'm fine,
but I get drunk instantly.
She doesn't understand the severity of this situation because she doesn't remember.
There are these phenomena.
Habitually forgetting what happened when drunk...
is called the black-out phenomenon.
If this continues,
- it may lead to Alzheimer's. Did you know that? - It's bad for your brain.
I do, but people don't think it's serious...
when I forget what happened when drunk.
I think that's why I didn't think it was a big deal.
You should know this.
Women who sleep on the streets...
or walk unsteadily become targets of a crime.
I see a lot of those kind of news, but my friends...
would help me get on a taxi.
They would either call my sister or my boyfriend.
They help me to go home safely, so I don't feel the danger.
However, it's not over after getting on a taxi.
- Even after getting on a taxi... - You never know.
You never know what will happen.
Fortunately, when I get on a taxi,
people say I get home safely.
That's what other people tell you.
- You don't remember. - I found myself sleeping at home.
One time, when she was drinking with me,
I couldn't drink anymore because I was getting drunk.
She kept telling me to drink one more glass together.
I couldn't talk with her anymore.
I left her there because I was so angry.
I left her on a street.
- I started worrying about her after I came home. - Right.
When I went out again, I found her with a strange man...
- talking together. - What?
- Really? - Yes.
- Why do you keep dating her? - What happened after that?
I said, "What are you doing?" The man suddenly left.
- I thought something dangerous would happen if this goes on. - It's dangerous.
What did you two talk about?
- Of course, you wouldn't remember. - No, I was a bit sober then so I remember.
I lost my cell phone, but my boyfriend wasn't with me.
I was asking the man if I could borrow his cell phone.
However, he only saw that scene.
He misunderstood, but it wasn't anything serious.
(We're so worried that we can't leave her alone.)
I'm worried for her work because...
One day, she drank until 6am.
- People could smell the alcohol from her. - Right.
- She went to throw up during break time. - My goodness.
She can't take it.
After dinner, her company car took her home.
She kept saying that she wanted to throw up in the car.
That's why I hung a plastic bag on her ears so she could throw up.
(She took care of the business.)
- You hung it on your sister's ears? - Yes, I did.
I have to go to my company dinner.
I do have some fears...
about making a mistake there.
Is there...
any specific reason for why you drink?
- You don't think it's a random habit? - I think there may be a specific reason.
I don't do social media. I don't look at my cell phone a lot.
I don't even watch television. The only way I relieve my stress is through drinking.
I don't have a job related to my undergraduate major.
That's another reason why I'm stressed.
Even though I may sound like a cheerful person,
- I don't express my distress to others. - When you're alone...
I suppress my feelings.
I relieve it through drinking. I think my suppressed feelings...
come up when I drink.
That's what I think.
- That's possible. - Your sister seems to have some stress. Did you know about this?
She can't drink like that even if she's stressed.
- Our mother is sick and she's getting chemotherapy. - My goodness.
That's why I can't talk about this to our parents.
That's why I'm trying to be responsible and...
take care of my sister.
If I give her advice, then she takes it lightly.
She doesn't even listen to me.
She really worries me.
If your mother is sick,
she'll be so distressed when she hears about this.
Did you know that your sister had these thoughts?
I did, to a certain extent.
Because I knew that, I was able to...
come out here on this national show...
- even though it's embarrassing for me. I needed a lot of courage. - Of course.
I came out here because...
- I want to fix my drinking habit.- That's great.
- You thought well. - Do you think...
you're the type of person who drinks alone, even when others don't tell you to?
Honestly, I don't enjoy drinking alone.
I just like the atmosphere.
- You just like the drinking atmosphere. - Right.
That's why I want to say...
that it's not easy to quit by myself. It'd be a great help if people around me...
don't call me out to drink that often.
It's really hard for someone who likes drinking to quit.
However, you have to develop the habit of stopping yourself before you get drunk.
Because... We don't black out after drinking,
- no matter how much we drink. Blacking out is very dangerous. - Right.
Sleeping somewhere is...
What if something happens? The world is very dangerous these days.
There's no turning back.
If you forget things,
you shouldn't drink at all.
People like her shouldn't drink at all. It's dangerous.
- Anyway, please be careful. - Right.
You'll find yourself in big trouble.
Do you want to say anything to your younger sister?
Sun-hee, because people around you take care of you,
- you don't realize how serious this is. - Right.
People around you may become exhausted and leave you eventually.
I hope you can take care of those around you as well.
I hope you'll realize how serious this is.
Let's find something we can do other than drinking.
- Let's find a way to decrease our drinking. - Yes.
Yes.
Choi Hwa-jeong...
Her voice is in a high tone and very beautiful.
When I slept over at her house, I was shocked.
She snored like a wrestler.
I was so shocked. I told her about it, but she wouldn't believe me.
- I recorded her snoring next time I slept over. - You recorded it.
I showed her, and she was so shocked.
After that point, she didn't snore anymore.
She was so shocked she snored like that.
That may be a solution.
Yes, if the incident happens again...
- It'll be good if you record it and show it to her. - It's because...
she can look at the video and realize her beastly acts.
It'll be good if she realizes it.
Do you think this is an issue?
It's an issue.
It's because this can't be solved by resolving to decrease drinking.
You have quit.
- It's a big issue that she blacks out. It's an issue. - Right.
It's an issue.
- The world is very chaotic these days. - Right.
It's very dangerous. I think it'll be good if she quits drinking completely.
- Jin-young? - I think it's an issue as well.
I think...
that the younger sister has to be sitting here.
- Herself? - Yes, the older sister shouldn't be the one worrying.
She has to realize her issue.
She needs to realize it quickly and fix her habit.
If you think it's an issue,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- Alright. Five, four... - Five, four...
- Three, two... - Three, two...
- One. That's it. - One. That's it.
Alright. Please say something to your older sister.
I'll quit drinking.
I hope you can decrease your drinking as well.
Us two sisters... Even our Dad likes drinking.
It'll be great if all our family members decrease drinking.
I can't be the only one quitting.
- That's good. - You're not going to be the only one quitting.
- Don't pick a fight. - Everyone is envious of us.
They think we're like friends. I hope we two can stay like friends.
Good. Alright.
Alright.
Please show us the results.
(The result is revealed.)
Alright. Out of 200 votes...
- In order to surpass this... - She'll win if she gets over 150 votes.
Will they be able to win "Am I Gross??"
- It's 110 votes. - It's 110 votes.
Many people love drinking.
This is a story about a wife who...
is going crazy because her husband is obsessed with something.
"I'm a housekeeper in my forties. I'm distressed because my husband is cheating."
"My husband goes out early in the morning."
"He returns only late at night."
"Neglecting his family, my husband..."
"chose foot volleyball."
He plays foot volleyball until late at night?
- It's just exercise. - "Of course, you may think that way."
"Please listen to my story."
- Is that written there? - It is, coincidentally.
- Really? - I had goosebumps.
It's a very accurate story.
I think she knew people would say that.
I think she heard people say that a lot.
"Kick, kick, kick."
"I thought it was an earthquake."
"Sir..."
"How many times did I tell you?"
"Please stop kicking the wall."
- He kicks the wall? - Yes.
- He kicks with the ball. - The wall got busted because he kicked the ball at it.
"What about me? I got depression because of you."
"Why are you complaining about depression? You must be bored."
"He neglects his family."
"What should I do about my husband? He only thinks about foot volleyball."
"I'm going to kick you out if you keep going on like this."
(Please stop my husband.)
Let's see how severe her situation is.
Let's bring out our guest.
(Kim Yoon-ha)
Since when did your husband become obsessed with foot volleyball?
Has it been long?
- Ever since a year ago... - It hasn't been long.
- It hasn't been long. - It really hasn't been long.
You have no idea. He started foot volleyball a year ago,
but he was obsessed with pool for almost 10 years.
- He changed the genre. - He's the type that gets obsessed.
- Addiction... - If he gets obsessed,
- he makes me crazy. - You're the only one he's not obsessed with?
Well...
- He probably married her because he was obsessed with her. - Right.
Why do you ask her that kind of question?
I just asked her because she was so upset.
Okay...
When my husband goes to work in the morning, he would go play in the afternoon.
- He works either during the morning or afternoon? - Yes.
He would play four hours in the afternoon.
He even goes to play foot volleyball at night.
- He plays during the afternoon and night? - Yes.
- Why does he play foot volleyball so much that he gets civil complaints? - Right.
He keeps kicking the ball at the apartment walls.
The whole apartment shakes.
- The whole apartment would shake. - Yes, it does.
The security guards warn him through the announcements.
It's so embarrassing.
We should make one for him.
If the whole apartment shakes, he must be very strong.
That's right. Did you come out to brag?
No.
He looks as if he's going to collapse.
My husband is 163cm and only weighs 55kg.
- He's skinny. - He must be thin.
Three weeks ago, he went on a foot volleyball tournament.
- That time... Yes, he did. - A tournament?
It rained so much that day.
He got soaked after playing foot volleyball.
He got a sore throat and went to the hospital to get an IV.
He would go back to play again after that.
He couldn't even eat his food. He had to eat porridge.
It makes me so angry to see him play foot volleyball like that.
(Honey, can you play moderately?)
It'll be so great if my husband goes out to play.
(She's envious of her husband who goes out.)
Your husband always stays at home...
- and asks you to bring him this and that? - Imagine having a three-meal husband.
Three-meal husband.
If the husband eats one meal, he's called a Mr. One-meal.
- Mr. One-meal. - If the husband eats two meals, he's called a two-meal husband.
If the husband eats three meals, he's called a three-meal jerk.
- Three-meal jerk. - Three-meal jerk.
- Three-meal jerk. - Eating all three meals...
You'll rather have him stay home and eat three meals than play foot volleyball?
He leaves after eating breakfast and lunch.
After work,
he eats dinner again at 12am.
- He eats three meals. - Right.
He's a three-meal husband who plays foot volleyball.
- My goodness. - That's even more annoying.
- It must be hard. - That's even more annoying.
Does he help you out at home?
He doesn't move a finger.
My hands are a maid's hands. His hands are of gold.
- He must at least move a finger. - He doesn't.
- He doesn't help me with the housework. - He doesn't help.
He must have his reasons. Let's meet the husband.
Hello.
Hello. Nice to meet you all.
Strangely, the people who sit there stand up when they greet us.
Perhaps they feel guilty.
Why do you like playing foot volleyball that much?
When I kick the ball, it relieves my stress.
If I have a ball and some water... It doesn't cost money.
I can go anywhere. I can kick at walls. I think it's great.
You need a ball, some water, and IV as well.
- You fainted. - I had the IV because I was sick.
That was only for a moment.
- Other people suffer from colds for a 10 days. - A week...
However, I take about five days to recover.
- I think I became healthier. - Playing foot volleyball helped you recover?
Do you not understand your wife's concerns?
It's just exercise. I don't think it's a big issue.
I don't spend money on drinking or smoking.
- People who come out here always say those things. - This...
Everybody excuses themselves for not drinking and smoking.
- Smoking and drinking... - If someone steals something,
- they would say, "I don't drink or smoke." - Right.
- Right. - Right.
That's not a good excuse.
- He quit smoking, but... - Drinking?
he still drinks when having a meal.
- He drinks a little? - He drinks everyday.
- What? - What?
- He drinks everyday? - You said you don't drink.
- Everyday? - How much does he drink?
- He drinks half a bottle. - You do drink, then. You drink everyday.
- Three glasses is not much. - What?
It's not much.
(He keeps giving excuses.)
- Are you a main player? - I'm going crazy.
- Well... - What's wrong?
What? Hold on.
- Okay. - There's something fishy.
If so... Because you can't say it,
- we'll set aside this question and come back later. - Yes.
We'll find out about this in detail later.
Your son is beside you. He looks very smart.
- Is he the son who speaks in respectable terms? - Yes.
Hello.
My name's Kim Tae-woon.
- He's cute. - Usually, elementary school students...
introduce themselves by naming their school, grade, and class.
However, he's like, "What use is it if I tell them that?"
- He's... - He's smart.
Does your Dad like foot volleyball a lot?
Yes. On his days off of work,
he doesn't play at home.
He almost always goes out to play foot volleyball.
That's why he thinks you like foot volleyball.
Is it hard to see your Dad at home?
Yes. I rarely get to see him.
- I see. - Right now...
One day, when Dad was playing foot volleyball at my school's stadium,
my friends said, "Your Dad is playing foot volleyball again."
Did the news spread at school?
My teachers say that as well.
My friends all say that.
- Do you feel upset when you hear those things? - No.
- Do you feel good? - Yes.
You're proud that your Dad is a foot volleyball player?
He's not a foot volleyball player.
He's not a professional player. What is he then?
- He's a coach. - A coach.
- Your Dad doesn't play in tournaments... - He's not a player yet.
- That's why he coaches... - He's a coach because he can't play?
- He coaches the players. - He...
He can't play because he's a backup.
Stop. He's just a child. Don't reveal those things to him.
- Stop it. - He's a coach.
The kid did nothing wrong.
His father's a coach.
Who told you that he's a coach. Did Dad tell you that?
Yes.
(My Dad told me.)
You're right. Dad's a coach.
My goodness.
(Oh dear...)
(There's something to point out now.)
Last year, at the age of 46,
I became pregnant.
- What? - My goodness.
It's all because he worked out.
(It's all because of foot volleyball.)
- It's all because he worked out. - Of course.
You got pregnant at 46. Congratulations.
(Congratulations.)
My goodness...
- Late born children are very adorable. Your husband must care a lot. - Right.
- Why is he obsessed with foot volleyball? - Does he help you out with childcare?
- He doesn't. - Why?
He loves my youngest child.
Because of foot volleyball, however, he doesn't help me.
You should have asked him to help you out...
- with childcare. - He said, "Think of it..."
"as military training for three years."
- What? - You said that to your wife?
He said that to you?
You went to the military for three years already with your oldest son...
if you go according to his logic.
I was young back then.
I took care of my son thinking of a three-year military training. Now, however,
my whole body aches.
I want him to help me with childcare, but he doesn't.
Men go to the military, so I told her to think of it as a three-year army training.
She already went to the army because of the oldest.
He talks...
After you get discharged, you still have reserve forces and civil defense training.
There are various other trainings.
Reserve forces and civil defense training are easy.
- Will you help her with childcare... - Right.
after she gets discharged in three years?
Of she gets discharged, the child will grow up.
The nursery will take care of the child.
- If so, - Your son...
- you're saying you won't do anything. - That's irresponsible.
I should do foot volleyball.
You're just going to do foot volleyball?
She must be angry.
I don't think men know this.
If women give birth at an older age,
their bodies are different from when they were young.
It's really painful and difficult.
Even if whole world gets destroyed,
cockroaches and middle-aged women will survive.
- What are you talking about? - That's nonsense.
- You think she's strong? - Yes, my wife is strong.
She can take care of the child on her own.
After listening to you speak,
it seems that you don't want to decrease your time...
- with foot volleyball. - Right.
Is it hard to change your ways?
If I work outside,
I get stressed. When I come back home,
it's tiring to do childcare, even though they're cute.
- Is your job one that gives you a lot of stress? - I...
drive intra-city buses.
- You must need to work out your legs. - It's tiring to drive.
- I work during the mornings and afternoons. - I see...
One course takes 3 hours and 20 minutes.
If there's heavy traffic,
it takes about four hours.
That means there's no break time. I have to complete the course in the given time.
There isn't a set time for me to have my meals.
I also have a stomach disorder.
There must not be enough time for you to go to the bathroom.
- Right. - I just have to bear with it.
- I see... - I have to bear...
- He has to keep driving. - with it.
- Customers wait for the bus to arrive. - It must be hard.
- It's a problem. - I have to keep driving to fulfill my duties.
What happens if you don't get there in time?
The customers would complain and ask me why the bus came so late.
- Then... - They complain.
Drunk customers would try to pick a fight with me.
While driving, drunk customers would come to me...
and start punching the protection wall.
They would say, "Why is the transportation fee increasing when my salary isn't?"
I didn't increase the bus fees.
- Right. - I don't know why they take out their anger on me.
Bus drivers aren't punching bags.
People punch me here and there.
I can't frown, so I smile...
and say, "I'm sorry."
- "I'll do my best." - Do you relieve that stress by foot volleyball?
Right. Because I do foot volleyball,
I feel refreshed.
(He seems to have been relieving his stress through foot volleyball.)
You must know, more than anyone else, what kind of stress your husband gets...
by driving intra-city buses.
If he tells me what kind of day he had,
I tell him, "Okay. Have fun playing foot volleyball."
I tell him to relieve his stress.
- However, there are times I get really angry. - It's because it's extreme.
It's too extreme.
We talked about being a foot volleyball coach.
I'm a bit cautious because your child's here, but...
(He was asked if he's a main player.)
(He hesitated.)
(His son said that he's a coach.)
Did you go on tournaments?
I... We...
If the players go,
I go as a volunteer.
I volunteer as a coach,
hold the kettle, and install the nets.
(Does a coach do those things?)
- What a pity. - You're a coach and you hold the kettle?
- He just does the chores. - Yes...
- He should be a main player. - Do you know...
how well your husband plays?
If he goes out with his friends to eat baeksuk,
he keeps telling them to play foot volleyball even though they lose.
What do his friends say?
They say he has two left feet.
- Two left feet? - Two left feet?
We call people who aren't good at foot volleyball as having two left feet.
- We also call them the opponent team. - Right.
- We call them X Man. - Right.
If so, do you have a specific goal, such as going on a tournament?
I want to win the borough office tournament,
the mayor tournament, and the national tournament.
- You can participate until you're in your 60's and 70's. - Right.
- You can. - I can keep playing.
I want to train my juniors later.
- My goodness. - Train your juniors?
He's really obsessed into foot volleyball.
- He's determined to spend the rest of his life with foot volleyball. - Right.
(Dear, why don't you think of the family?)
- One of the foot volleyball team members came. - I see.
We have to know everything for sure.
Does he have two left feet?
As much as he tries hard,
he doesn't improve much.
It's a pity. If the ball comes to him,
he keep missing it or kicks it to the side.
After playing a few games with the opponent side,
- they keep kicking the ball to him. - Right, they kick it towards the weak spot.
They keep kicking the ball to him. They were a good team.
We had a big score difference that day and lost.
After that, we place him towards the end of the game.
When we gather and play foot volleyball together,
he would play one or two games.
The rest of the time...
he kicks the ball at the wall...
- The wall... - or...
He analyzes his moves and plays foot volleyball.
- Son. - We feel bad for the son.
Son. We're sorry.
It's okay.
- He wasn't a coach. - Isn't your Dad cool?
He tries hard and does his best, even though he's not good at it.
- His passion... - He's cool.
- He's cool, right? Are you good at studying? - Right.
I'm not.
However, even though you're not good, you should do your best like your Dad, right?
- Yes. - You have to take after your Dad.
I'm not sure.
- He said he's not sure. - You're smart.
Your Dad...
(He learns about the world.)
Was he like this before? Was he different when you two dated?
He wasn't really my type.
- Please spill it all out. - Please spill it all out.
Well... As I dated him,
he said, "When you get old,"
"sick, and can't stand up, I'll change your diapers."
- Her heart was moved. - When he said that...
- Did he really say that? - Did that move your heart?
- Yes. I thought that he's a very kindhearted person. - With those words?
I thought it'll be alright if I can lean on him my whole life.
He was so nice to me when we dated.
However, he got me pregnant when I was 46 and made me do childcare at home.
- Right. - I'm exhausted at home.
My husband won't come home even I wait for him.
Because of old age,
I not only have menopause but also depression.
When I told my husband that I'm having a hard time with menopause and depression,
he said, "Those things come to women who have nothing to do."
Those things come to women who have nothing to do.
(He scolded her, rather than comfort her.)
- He said, "Why would you have depression?" - The way he speaks...
After enduring all this at home,
I started having panic disorders.
I took medication for a week.
One day, my husband wasn't at home because he went to a funeral.
I started having a panic disorder and I couldn't breathe.
- I had such a hard time alone at home. - My goodness.
It'll be alright if he decreases the time spent on foot volleyball.
However, he would go out to play foot volleyball even when it rains.
He would play foot volleyball while getting IV.
He would go to different hospitals and get different medications.
He has this many pills.
- That much? - Those are leftover pills.
- That's extreme. - That's why I'm so worried.
Did you know that your wife was suffering from panic disorders?
I did hear about it.
However, if I panic with her,
then she'll become more worried.
In order to make her less worried,
I said, "Panic disorder isn't an illness."
"You can fight it alone wisely."
- Worries... - You did that to make her less worried?
In order to make her less worried,
you can't say panic disorders come to those who have nothing to do.
I didn't think her illness was severe back then.
According to your judgment...
You're making erroneous judgments right now.
This is a signal calling out to you for help.
She's sending a signal to you.
- However, you're ignoring those signals. - You're making it worse.
- You're making it worse. - It must be so difficult.
- Right. - Do you talk to anyone about your distress?
My mother passed away in a car accident when I was in Grade four.
My father also passed away many years ago.
Both my parents aren't here with me.
My parents-in-law aren't here either.
- I can only depend on my husband. - Right.
Because my husband keeps going out,
I feel very lonely and distressed.
It'll be good if we have more conversations with each other.
- Right. That's the most important thing. - There's no time for me to talk with him.
I hope he can decreases his time on foot volleyball...
and spend time with the family.
I don't think she just wants her husband to help her out with childcare.
Right? She wants him to come back to the family and spend time with them.
- Even one word... - Your hands and feet are very cold.
They're colder than mine.
You have to help her out in many ways.
How do you console your wife's hurts?
Once a month, I let her go out...
to relieve her stress.
- Do you take care of the children? - Yes.
Once a month... Do you let her stay out late?
I don't let her stay out late. I tell her to come home after dinner.
That's not embracing her.
- That's a necessity. - That's a necessity.
- It's... - Once a month.
- It's as if you're giving her a huge favor. - Right.
There's no way for her to release her stress.
- Let's go around and say if this is an issue or not. - An issue or not.
If the husband really loves his family,
- I think he should be more sincere. - Right.
I think he should have a sincere conversation with his wife.
I think he should do something else rather than foot volleyball with his family.
I think he can be happy...
- only if his wife and children are happy. - Right.
I think you should show more effort as a father.
If you spend more effort to have more time with your family,
I don't think it'll be that big of an issue.
If you empathize with her concerns, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- Five, four... - Five, four...
- Three, two... - Three, two...
- One. It's over. - One. It's over.
Alright. Is there anything you want to say to you wife?
Honey, I'll limit my time with foot volleyball in the future.
- I'll help out with the house chores. - Good.
I'll go play foot volleyball with our baby on my back.
- My goodness... - You're taking it lightly.
Son, is there anything you want to say to your parents?
- Yes. Mom, - Oh dear...
I think you should stop slapping Dad's back.
- Stop slapping Dad's back? - Dad, I hope you can protect Mom.
My goodness. You said the answer.
Do your parents ever fight in front of you?
They don't fight often, but I did see them several times.
How do you feel at that time?
It's heartbreaking.
- Right. - If so...
- You spoke well. - Ask your parents.
Mom and Dad, don't fight. Please live a happy life.
- Right. - It's a good thing...
(We hope that he'll take care of his family and spend less time on foot volleyball.)
Let's see how many votes this issue got.
Show us the result.
"I Want to Kick Him Away"
It's over a hundred votes.
- There's quite a lot. - 100. 120.
It's 128.
(She received 128 votes.)
Alright.
"Am I Gross?" wins today.
We will give the winner a prize to root for their issues to be solved.
Until the day we are all issue-free,
- Hello will continue to counsel you. - Thank you.